Live In The Present- The Fault In Our Stars

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I just came back from watching "The Fault In Out Stars", a film based of a book by the same name, which I have also read.

I want to start this off by saying that this post is in no way a review, it is instead a reflection of my thoughts after watching and reading a book that really does a fantastic job at put things into perspective. Even if it fiction. For those who do not know what this book is about, it follows a girl named Hazel and a boy named Augustus. One has cancer, another has one leg and is in remission. This book followed the story they shared together and I am going to stop there to keep from ruining the ending for anything or even the journey of the story.

I would hate to be that "spoiler" blogger.

What I want to focus on is how I felt while reading the book and watching the film.
Besides the fact that both managed to reduce me into a puddle of tears (which I will be honest is not exactly a difficult thing to do) it shook me up a bit, and by a bit I mean a lot, when it comes to my constant issue with living in the moment.

During the course of this blog I have been writing and I have shared how important it is to live in the present, not live in the future or dwell in the past. At the same time I have shared my own struggle with living in the present. I often find myself either thinking of the future or letting the past pin me down and level me. I have had this problem for years, no so much with the past pinning me down anymore thank goodness. But living in the present is still a problem of mine. I usually just cop it out by saying it is because I am a "dreamer"

Which is something I still stand by.

Since I was young I have always been a dreamer, thinking of the things I will do and the things I want to achieve in my life. I still do and I find I often forget that all we have really is the present at this time.
I think the reason this book shook me up is because it is very much tied in with the illnesses of the characters and surrounding characters, which is something I cannot relate to. Having a life threatening illness is not something I can relate to and I am blessed because of this.
Yes I have had other very difficult things happen in my life that have effected me in so many ways and shaped me in so many ways but I have never had the cloud of a deadly illness hanging over my head and I hate that I often forget just how blessed I am to be where I am at. That frustrates me about myself because I should know better. Or should I say I know better.

I just forget sometimes.

My point is that seeing as how we are only human and can (and most definitely) will forget to live in the present more often then not it is so important for us to remember that this time. Where we are right now is all we have right now. We do not know what we will have in five minutes or fives years so it is important to enjoy and be grateful for what we DO have and brush off what we do not have.

The film and book are both beautiful, amazing, upsetting, jarring and honest in their respective mediums. I love how they made me feel even if at some points it was me being emotionally and mentally shaken with the fact that we only really have one life. I recently had a reader comment that;

"Life is not a dress rehearsal" and I love that. Because if it true.

There is also a often used quote from the book which is;

"Pain demands to be felt" and this is also true. If you feel pain in the moment, in the present, then let yourself feel it but do not let it pin you down if it is in the past or weigh on you through your future. The present may not always be pleasant but it is all we have and we need to try to make the best of it.

Sometimes this can feel like the hardest thing in the world. Sometimes it is.
But it is just a moment in our lives that we can replace with something we are grateful for.
Some positive and lovely thing we know we have that can change those things around.

I will be the first to admit that sometimes I do dwell, I dwell and then I get stressed which equals a mess. But more often then not that does not happen anymore because I know better but I recently forgot this and this film went ahead, grabbed my by the shoulders a shook me up.

And for that I am very pleased that it did.

Live in the present folks.


xoxo

Nicola

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